As a former peer counselor at a Woman’s Pregnancy Care Center, the center helps to lead women choose life for their baby rather than abortion. We help them by offering material items as well as spiritual needs while they navigate the ups and downs of pregnancy. The center offers classes that benefit them along their journey. We reassure them that we care. Sometimes some of us would have “baby showers” at our church congregations where church members will donate new or gently used baby items, which helps the Care Centers.
Women who walk through the doors of a Pregnancy Care Center are there for two reasons; 1) a pregnancy test; and, 2) seeking help.
I know that speaking about controversial issues such as abortion is like walking through a mine field, and for my Facebook friends, twitter followers, and acquaintances, you can choose to unfollow or unfriend me although I hope you won’t.
I feel led to speak out.
The Head of the Snake
Abortion is a snake’s head–pixabay photo
There are multiple reasons why women want to get an abortion but mainly they are due to financial status, pressure from others (a friend or family member), age, ridicule, shame, guilt, etc. We need to care about the welfare of these women and take their circumstance into consideration.
I believe it’s time to begin an open, honest, and real conversation about how abortion has taken root and wrapped its ugly tentacles around the soul of America. Isn’t it time to have civil discussions about the abortion industry without having to worry about repercussions from others in order for the snake’s head to be severed?
There’s been an intense struggle in America between pro-lifers and abortion-activists. But if we’re going to win the hearts and minds of those who are caught in this struggle, or the victims of abortion, then we must be an example to them by being authentic–honest and candid–so that we can help women who are in this position. There are opposing views on abortion, but isn’t it time to put away malice and hate and instead become a guiding light for Jesus to them?
“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” ~John 8:32
People have a right to know the truth, but the truth must be presented in love and not be judgmental:
“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into Him who is the Head, that is, Christ.” Ephesians 4:15 Truth must be given in love, kindness, and with all patience so it will have a chance of being well received and have a chance to sprout.
It’s been recorded by various sources that tons of abortions occur each year in the United States. Who really knows the exact number (not sure how these statistics are measured), but it’d still be safe to say “tons.”
The Guttmacher Institute, which was originally founded as a research affiliate of Planned Parenthood (PP), reports that the number of abortions have dropped since 2011. Carol Tobias, National Right to Life President, states, “That abortion rates and numbers continue to decline is heartening because it shows that women are rejecting the idea of abortion as the answer to an unexpected pregnancy.” 
Brian Fisher, Founder of Human Coalition, reports:
- Since 1973, when Roe v. Wade made abortion on demand legal in all 50 states, more than 58 million Americans have been killed in the womb—and that number is climbing. Now compare that number to the more than 1.1 million servicemen and women who lost their lives during America’s military conflicts over the past 240 years.
- According to some studies, abortions worldwide are estimated to exceed 1.7 billion human lives—and we are well on our way to reaching 2 billion.
- An estimated 3,000 lives are lost every day to abortion in America alone. 
But this post isn’t really about statistics but about the heart and soul of America. I think we can agree that the abortion rate has increased significantly in all fifty states over the past four decades since Roe v Wade. Many vulnerable women have walked through the doors of abortion clinics feeling a sense hopelessness, desperate for help as their world crumbles around them.
The person sitting behind a reception desk at an abortion clinic is their first contact. Will this person show them love and grace while offering them an option to choose life? Or will the person sitting behind the desk give them only one way out: abortion?
The Right To Choose?
I’m curious why so many people today are concerned about a woman’s “right to choose?” Does “right to choose” really have anything to do with a woman’s health? Or their body? Why has a women’s right to choose become such an important issue woven into the fiber of our society?
First, I believe it has nothing to do with a woman’s body, but everything to do with profit. Ask Abby Johnson who was a Clinic Director at PP. She gives her testimony here and here. She states that PP makes approximately $313.00 per abortion, adding up to millions or billions a year.
According to a Fox News report in 2012, PP received half a billion dollars of taxpayer money ($542,400.00). “Their abortion services increased while their cancer screening and prevention services dropped.” How wonderful it would be if this money would be funneled into Pregnancy Care Centers where woman really can and do find help and hope for their lives because crisis pregnancies develop from crisis lives. These women need hope and help.
Abortion is a “modern-day holocaust” that has turned into a multi-billion dollar business. Choosing abortion, however, signals a deeper problem that some woman may or may not realize at the time of her abortion. Most who step through the doors of an abortion clinic are searching for answers, but walk out believing that abortion is their last, best hope.
Vulnerable women have been lied to by Planned Parenthood and other abortion providers. They really don’t care about a woman’s health–this has only been a cover-up to the lies they tell–as much as they care about their profits. And the lie is the snake’s head that must be exposed and severed. PP workers remain silent on the devastating effects that can occur from an abortion.
A New Message
Abortion-minded women need to hear a new message, a new voice and that is the simply the message of truth: THE FETUS IS NOT A BLOB OF TISSUE. It’s a life created by God. A life that is greater than all the other creatures of this Earth. They need to hear that God is the Creator of life and He is the Author of our faith. They need to hear this message again and again and again until it begins to sink in to the fiber of their hearts and minds and our society. They need to hear these truths, over and over, from those of us who really care and can offer them real hope, grace, forgiveness, and second chances instead of treating them as a number. This will not only change the hearts and minds of vulnerable women, but also society’s.
The first step in a woman choosing life happens when a woman begins to love and respect her own body, and having an ultrasound. And as she learns to respect her body, she’ll learn to respect the human life growing inside of her. And if she’s capable of loving her own body, she’ll be capable of loving her child and desiring nothing less than the best for her baby. But how instrumental is seeing that baby inside of you through an ultrasound?
A Strong Bond
What many abortion-minded women don’t know and aren’t being told is the strongest of all bonds that exists between a mother and her child; a bond that is stronger than any other human bond. And this bond is the bond that links two lives together forever. This bond can never be severed, not even in death, and sadly, a mother may not discover this fact until it’s too late when guilt and remorse lingers upon her heart and soul. She can pretend that her abortion never happened, she can suppress it to the utmost parts of her mind and heart, She can even hurl insults at pro-lifers, but even that won’t heal her broken heart. She can even hurl insults at pro-lifers, but even then it won’t heal her broken heart because the bond between a mother and child cannot be suppressed or broken. It lives.
But things change when a woman is given the opportunity to see her child under the scope of an ultrasound. She is more likely to keep her baby or give it up for adoption instead of choosing abortion. Sadly, without this opportunity, she often chooses abortion.
What happens after an abortion when the woman leaves the clinic? What happens when she finally faces the reality of what she’s done; when she realizes that the consequences of her decision became a missed opportunity to hold her newborn baby in her arms and gazes into the face of God’s creation?
There are several types of abortion methods, and none of them good. Some woman will experience cramping, bleeding, nausea, diarrhea, and pain, and sometimes it leads to death (for a number of reasons) that many hear little about.
The Effects of Abortion
The emotional effects can be far worse than the physical, and they can linger for years:
- Guilt/emotional pain
- Sexual dysfunction
- Difficulty with relationships
- Memory repression
- Increased alcohol & drug abuse
- long-term grief
- Anniversary reactions
- Suicidal thoughts
- Spirituality effects
Hasn’t America stood silent long enough? Shame on society and shame on America’s government for supplying the belly of this beast called abortion with our tax-payer dollars. Women who walk into an abortion clinic need our prayers, our love, our support, and most of all grace.
Let us get back to the basics of humanity. Let’s treat life as something so precious that we can’t destroy it.
If you feel the same, or you know someone who may be facing an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy…tottering on the edge of choosing between life or abortion, won’t you please share this post with them so they know there is hope through pregnancy?
You or they may contact Care Net’s Option Line at 1-800-395-HELP for further help.
Next: Part II – The Voiceless