“Jesus said, ‘I am the light of the world: he who follows me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.'”  John 8:12

Emptiness. Anger. Hate. Intolerance. Envy. Jealousy. Resentment. Depression. Broken hearts. Everyone has felt these emotions at one time or another. I’ve had good times and bad times. Some days shine bright, and some days the storm clouds can easily roll in.

And so goes the circle of life. When life takes a nosedive, something causes it. When this happens, if you peel back some layers you may discover the root cause of your dilemma.

When I look back, I discovered that sometimes my greatest obstacle was me–not always, but sometimes. When we decide to get out of our own way and let go of our past then we begin to conquer our problems and begin tearing down the walls that have entrapped us.

Is Your Life Broken?…Are you in a place where you’d rather not be?

“I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly” —John 10:10. This is a promise.

Do your troubled hours seem to blur into days, days into months, months into years without much change? Does depression seem to keep you a prisoner, leaving you feeling hopeless?

If this is where you are, take a breath, and take the first step to break the link in the chain. But you must change the way you think about about yourself and your life. If you feel that you need to get outside help then seek help. Maybe no one can help to change your situation but there are people who care about helping you.

Jesus cares.

I care.

I’m no scholar or college professor, I have no doctorate degree, and I’m not an ordained minister. I’m someone who’s faced the highs and lows of life, and I know what it’s like to go through endless trials. But trials help strengthen us to make us stronger. God never promised that we wouldn’t have trials, but He has promised us that He would walk through them with us. The New Testament says, “Consider it all joy, my brethern, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:2-4).

A perfect result. I think we’ve all felt like we’ve been kicked around and have had our hearts trampled by thoughtless words or deeds, which can force us to build walls to keep people out. But we don’t have to allow these circumstances to keep people out of our lives, or allow such circumstances to define us. What defines us is how we choose to deal with those trials.

By tearing down the walls that keep us from pressing forward, by taking deep breath, we will then be stepping in the right direction.

God is a God of many chances. His patience is great. He’s forgiving, and His mercies are new every morning. He’s there even when we don’t feel His presense. Turn to Him. Ask Him to give you the strength escape the valley so you can stand on the mountian again.

Begin your journey today. Evaluate your life. Then take the first step to change what isn’t working in your life, and begin a new plan: take a clean canvas and paint a new beginning. And through this process, and you will begin to discover your purpose.

If you feel you need a gentle nudge to begin a new journey, or you need to renew your hope, please check out my Hurting Hearts video here, https://www.debra-erickson.com/videos or, my latest book, here, “Hurting Hearts Need a Light.”

Be blessed.

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Are You Building A Foundation For Your Life?

I don’t like to write long posts anymore because people have a lot of things going on. So, I’ll keep this short and to the point. 🙂

This generation has been given a unique gift and wonderful opportunity to have a platform where we are able to communicate to the world in an instant.

Many years ago, missionaries were sent to the four corners of the world in order to spread the good news of Jesus Christ. When I was young, I thought about how hard it was for missionaries to have to pack up their families to go to the mission fields where they believed were God-led. This was really the best way to witness to the world.

While there is still missionary work being done today, there are mission trips available. Instead of moving families across the world for months, and sometimes years, people can now go with other groups for shorter periods of time.

Years later, we now have the internet and with the internet comes the technology of websites, Facebook, and Twitter as a means to communicate with people around the world in the blink of an eye, which makes it effortless by clicking “send”: our message is delivered.

However, as with most technology, along with the good comes the bad. The internet is being used to 1) exploit children, 2) people who inundate the web to entice hopeless women to get abortions, 3) people who spread satanism and pornogrophy, and, 4) those who are pansters who spread political fake news, lies, and propaganda, and the list goes on.

But on a bright note, the internet is also being used for good. Many Christians are able to spread the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ around the world in a split second. The Bible says that Jesus won’t return until every ear has been presented with the good news of the gospel, so with the internet, this is not as daunting a task as it once was when we sent out missionaries.

Therefore, wouldn’t it be great if we could use the internet as a tool to spread so much good that we could eventually choke out the bad? (I know, hopeful thinking) But for those of you who may be wondering what to do with your life, it wouldn’t take a lot of time to write a quick post–maybe a minute. Even if it’s once a week that would only add up to 52 minutes a year!

It would not only be good for others, wouldn’t it also be good for you? Giving you a sense of self-satisfaction in knowing that you’re encouraging others in order to make a difference in the world one small step (minute) at a time?

There is a huge mission field beond us, and we can use the internet as a tool to spread the good news.

Maybe this is the day to try something new. Give it a shot! You’ve got nothing to lose.


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Sheep Among Wolves (con’t) How Do We Overcome?

We’re reminded in Psalm 23 that Jesus is our Shepherd. David knew well who his Shepherd was, and he depended on God for strength and courage to go through “the valley of the shadow of death” (v.4)

We must do the same.

How do we overcome?

By accepting Christ as your personal Savior, and by relying on God’s strength and grace. By praying. By reading God’s Word. By having relationships with other Christians; being around those who love and care for you the way Christ loves and cares for His church. And then trusting Him to guide you and sustain you through life’s storms.

Let us not give the “wolves” the opportunity to wreak havoc in our lives because they’re out there, lurking about.

It is my prayer that we stand strong with the sword and shield of God’s Word. Our Lord provides for us, and He will keep the wolves at bay if we trust Him and ask Him to help us discern the good from the bad. God’s grace will help us if we lean on the Good Shepherd.  God’s grace will carry us through. He loves you. He loves me. He loves us enough to protect us from harm.

Jesus is the answer.


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Sheep Among Wolves

“I am the good Shepherd; the good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.”  John 10:11 NASV

Social media strives diligently to hijack our thoughts, feelings, and actions , especially those of our children’s. Propaganda is growing around the world and has become a boiling pot of lies with the soul intention of trying to deceive the weak and helpless.

Truth is becoming obscure. But there is hope.

How did we get to this point?

Take wolves. Wolves are social animals that travel in packs, and each pack has a leader called the alpha male. They are nocturnal; they sleep in the day and roam freely at night while seeking their prey. They are carnivores: meat eaters. They are stronger in numbers, and wolves assess their situation before leaping into action.

To make an analogy, sadly, we have human wolves roaming our country. They disguise themselves as social media pundits, wealthy politicians, college professors, Hollywood elites, and late night hosts who strive to promote their social and political agendas–not all but many. Many have changed our history.

Human wolves –many times dressed in sheep’s clothing–seek to prey on the sheep of the world, especially those who appear weak, and those who haven’t the strength to fight back will pay the price.

Like real wolves, human wolves don’t stay in one place too long. They’re known to travel up to twelves miles a day; but in our society they can travel the world in the blink of an eye through our modern means of communication. They communicate by howling, barking, growling, whining, and disrupting the calm, causing havoc wherever they go.


On the tender side of the animal kingdom are the  sheep. Sheep must rely heavily on their master–the Good Shepherd–to take care of them. Some may think this is a sign of weakness when in fact it’s their greatest strength, because the Bible says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” (Phil 1:13 NASV). A shepherd works day and night to protect his sheep because he knows the dangers that lurk.

Sheep need endless attention and the utmost care. Their masters must keep a vigilant watch. And because of the disproportionate weight of their bodies, they can fall down, roll over, which makes it impossible for them to get up without the help of their shepherd. They will flail, bleat, and fight to right themselves, but if their master doesn’t rescue them in time, gas collects in their four-compartment stomach, eventually suffocating them. This is the description of cast down sheep.

King David knew how it felt to be cast down (Ps. 42:11 NASV). Some shepherds go to great lengths to provide their flock with the best of everything: plentiful grazing of green pastures, unlimited water sources, keeping pests away, and so on. Just like Jesus does with those who belong to Him.

There are other managers who do little to care for their flock because all they care about is what’s in it for them: profit from the fleece. And as a result, the flock suffers and flounders among the thorns.  When a shepherd neglects his sheep, and doesn’t keep a vigilant watch, the sheep are subject to falling prey to wolves, dogs, cougars, or rustlers. Sheep are at the mercy of their keepers.

We are like sheep. We are easily distracted, and we can become unaware of what is going on around us as we rifle through life on a daily basis. We live in our little pastures, feeling safe and secure as we graze on the green richness of God’s blessings, unaware that there are wolves prowling about and trying to find a way to attack.

These wolves are not just at our back doors or looking through our fences, they’ve broken down the gates to our communities and are roaming free, seeking those whom they can devour. 

These are our true enemies, and we are their prey. They have crossed the line, filled with fury and rage because they are hungry for souls they can deceive in order to bring them to their side. They won’t stop until they devour the weak and helpless. Their only mission is to seek and destroy.

While the sheep have been asleep, the wolves have crept in and pillaged our towns, cities, and villages. It is time for all timid sheep to wipe their sleepy eyes, and realize that the wolves can no longer be ignored. They must be driven out of our towns and communities…

*to be continued

*copyright 2019*

Excerpt from: Hurting Hearts Need a Light



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Unexpected Crisis

Unexpected pregnancy.

There is no problem too big that you and God can’t handle together

It can’t shouldn’t be undone.

Life can and does get in the way of our hopes, dreams, and plans. Women in a crisis pregnancy walks into a clinic hoping to find a quick answer to her problem: she’s pregnant, and she feels there is no way of escape. Her world has been turned upside down as she faces the consequences of her actions. Planned Parenthood will most likely offer her only one option in spite of what many think: Abort. But, in the woman’s heart, she knows that she can either keep her baby or give it up for adoption.

Some reasons for choosing abortion can vary:

  • Incest or rape
  • Fetal abnormalities
  • Doctor advised against it due to health
  • Didn’t want to be a single parent
  • Couldn’t afford a child
  • A child would interfere with plans for the future.

Many women facing a crisis pregnancy can become confused, fearful, angry, guilty, depressed, suicidal, hopeless, and in most cases feel worthless. These emotions are understandable, but many women aren’t given the opportunity to know all their options, or to even receive an ultrasound. 

Women who find themselves in this situation need help. We need to offer hope, reduce their anxiety, and reassure them that there is no problem too big for God. As we listen to their stories and their fears, allowing them to speak, we can encourage them to save their baby.


Tim, an adoptive father, says, “As an adoptive father myself, it hurts me every time I hear and know of an abortion, because that is one less baby to go to a childless couple, like we were, who desperately want one.”

Teri, an adoptive mother, says their adopted son, Pat, “has been such a joy for us . . . he makes us laugh . . . and we’re so grateful his birth parents didn’t abort him.” Their son is now 32 years old.

Heidi, who is not only an adoptive parent but also an adoptee, says, “Adoption for me is everything that I am, everything that I was meant to be and what my children will see as who we are as a family. It has unfolded not only the gift of life for me as an adoptee, but gave me the gift of motherhood 35 years later.”

There are organizations who are ready to help women who find themselves in an unwanted pregnancy. And many childless couples pray and are waiting to adopt so they can feel  the joy of a child to love.  Each adoption is unique and the process time may vary from one adoption to another, but it is worth the wait not only for the adoptive parents, but for a precious child.

Some places who can help

Texas Christian Adoption Agency. 817-491-2367. In a lot of cases, the birth parent(s) can stay abreast of their child’s development through the years.


Adoption Accociates.net

If you live in or around the Michiana area, you can contact Lifeplan at 269-684-6200 in Niles, Michigan, or visit their website at LifePlan. They offer pre and post assistance for those wishing to keep their baby by providing material goods and emotional support throughout the pregnancy not only for the woman, but also for the father. They will also help to guide you with the adoption process.

These places may also supply adoption information in your state.

If you are in a crisis pregnancy, or if you know someone who is, please help by passing this information along to let them know that their situation isn’t hopeless. Encourage them toward adoption.

There is no better time or greater time than to go see the movie, Unplanned, that will hit theaters March 29th, 2019. It’s the heartwarming story of Abbey Johnson, former Director at Planned Parenthood. “What she saw changed everything.” She walked out and devoted her life to help women make the right choice through compassion and love to keep her child. Hopefully, her message will resonate throughout this great land and the world.

You can listen to her story here on the Lucas Miles Show when he had an opportunity to sit down with Abbey to hear her heartwarming story.

Also, please watch the movie trailer of Unplanned by clicking on the link below:


If we are ever to come together as a civilized nation again, this is the time, and this is the event. Please go see the movie. Take someone with you. Stand on the side of life. Please, make your voice heard. God will honor even a quiet voice. Be part of saving the life of a baby.

Pray for our nation. Pray for our children.

“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” ~ Philippians 4:6 KJV

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Free Monday

Hurting hearts also need hope

Do you feel as though there is no light at the end of your tunnel? You’ve lost joy? And hope?

When darkness clouds your days, and you feel as though life isn’t worth living, look up. We aren’t just taking up space for no good reason. We were born with a God-given purpose; a purpose that gives hope to a weary heart, which then gives us joy.

Hurting Hearts Need A Light isn’t a step-by-step guide to instant success, but it’s to help turn you in a direction that offers hope and encouragement so you might find your purpose.

Take a deep breath, step onto a new path, and take a step toward a brighter future.

As promised, I am offering my free ebook, Hurting Hearts Need a Light, on Amazon today, Monday, December 3, 2018.

Get your copy today. If you think someone could benefit from it, it would make a wonderful Christmas gift to give.

Also available in paperback for $5.99

Amazon link


Hurting Hearts Book Video



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Hurting Hearts Need a Light

Have you lost light at the end of your tunnel? There is hope.

If you’ve been following my 4-part series on this site I announced at the end of series IV that I would be offering my latest ebook, Hurting Hearts Need a Light, for free on Monday, December 3, 2018 on Amazon.

If you feel as though there is no light at the end of your tunnel, or you’ve lost hope and joy, this book is for you.

When darkness clouds your days, and you feel as though life isn’t worth living, remember, we are not just taking up space for no real reason. We were born with a God-given purpose; a purpose that gives hope to a weary heart, which then gives us joy. Even you. There’s a plan for everyone who is willing to step in a new direction.

Hurting Hearts Need A Light isn’t a step-by-step guide to instant success, but rather a vehicle to help turn you in a direction that offers hope and encouragement so that you may find your purpose.

None of us are free from pain. We all experience ups and downs in life. Sometimes we just need an encouraging word. 

Take a deep breath and take a step toward a brighter future.

If you or someone you know is facing a difficult situation, reach out to them and offer  them the opportunity to take advantage of my free ebook available all day on December 3, 2018. This is an easy read and will also be available in paperback to give as a gift to someone who might be hurting during this time of year, and would make a lovely Christmas gift. 

May God’s light shine upon you and your family, and may you feel His presence throughout this holiday season.

Enjoy my video Hurting Hearts Need a Light at https://www.debra-erickson.com/videos

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Part IV Fathers Who Love Their Unborn Child

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Anyone who knows me knows that abortion does not set well with me. It angers me. We’re living in a society who feels no remorse to committing heinous crimes upon unborn children: Tearing a baby limb from limb is savage and those who do it are void of compassion.

I believe when God sees what men are doing to His creation, He would have to wonder why more people aren’t speaking out against it.

But I don’t think that just being angry is enough to stop these horrendous acts of abortion. Anger hasn’t stopped abortionists yet.

I’m not only concerned with abortion-minded women, but I’m just as concerned with fathers who have suffered at the hands of an abortionists and who would’ve loved to save their child from abortion.

“Each father experiencing deliverance from the pain of abortion loss knows the radical difference of being in bondage and the restoration of life in Christ as a redeemed son.” ~Care Net (Check this article out HERE)

Fathers who have lost their unborn child to abortion are just as susceptible to the harmful psychological, spiritual, and emotional effects, and  emptiness that mothers experience. They, too, can have thoughts of suicide knowing they will never be able to see or hold their baby in their arms. Some men, despite what we may hear on social media or in the news, love their unborn child and feel that they should have a say in their child’s future, but they have been silenced. Their voice doesn’t matter.

Most women who step into an abortion clinic or a Pregnancy Care Center feel scared. They don’t know which way to turn, who they can trust, and most of them have little hope for a better future. Consequently, many men feel the same, the only difference is that men have little say in choosing life of their unborn child if their partner/spouse wants an abortion.

Women who make the choice to have an abortion have been told for years that it is their choice and only they have a right to make it, while the father is denied that choice even though it is his child, too. Denied. The Right. To Choose Life. For His Child.

Being denied such an important decision can send a man into depression and grief. Who do they tell their story to? There is no tangible grave marker to kneel in front to gaze at the name of their unborn child. Their grief can be unending. Their story has ended prematurely and it isn’t a happy ending.

What is the answer?

It is time for fathers and men who oppose abortion to speak out and fight for your right to be heard. You can’t remain passive or silent. I believe that men and the fathers of aborted children may have a greater impact on the abortion debate than any other group–you can  change hearts and minds of abortion-minded women and men by telling your stories.

When Fathers are being denied the right to choose life for your child, then you should have the right to sue for paternity and for the life of your child even if the child hasn’t been born yet. Fathers should be able to choose life for their unborn child.

The time is now. Abortion has gone on too long. Lives are being destroyed. It’s time to begin the process of taking your story all the way to the Supreme Court if necessary. It’s a father’s role to protect his family. It’s a father’s role to protect his children. Men have an obligation and a natural instinct to protect their own. You should not be denied this important decision. You should have every right to keep your unborn child and give your child the love they deserve.

Father’s, please fight for your right to choose life for your child. Guilt and grief are real. Maybe it will take a few men who’ve lost a child to abortion to fight for those who are unable to fight for themselves. You deserve to experience fatherhood. You deserve to hold your baby in your arms.

Curtousy: Pixabay

Don’t be silent. Don’t succumb to grief without speaking out. Begin the process of having a pro-life wave cross over America.

Marriage. Family. Children. Life. Choose you this day what you will fight for.You have rights, too. It takes only one small spark to start a fire.

Men suffer, too. But there is hope. There can be healing. In their book, Fatherhood Aborted, by Guy Condon and David Hazard, they bring healing to men who have suffered at the hands of abortion.

This book reveals what Jesus can do for men who have been the victims of abortion. Consider this book.

Do you feel that there is no light at the end of your tunnel? You’ve lost joy and hope? When you feel like life isn’t worth living, look up and discover your God-given purpose so you can begin fresh and step toward a bright future.

I will be offering my ebook, “Hurting Hearts Need a Light,” free on Amazon on Monday, December 3, 2018. If the path before you is bleak, and you need hope; or if you need something that will give meaning to your life, then I invite you to get your free copy.

Please share this post to someone who you think would profit from it. Thank you.


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Part III What If You Don’t Really Want an Abortion? What Are Your Options?

In Part I, I discussed some of the reasons that women choose abortion and why many believe that abortion is an only option when they find themselves in a crisis pregnancy.

In Part II, I discussed the short and long-term effects of abortion including physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological aspects.

Are you facing a crisis pregnancy?

Are you torn with making a life altering decision with the life you are carrying inside you?

Are you being pressured to have an abortion by someone?

If you answer yes to even one of these questions, then you are facing one of the most important and life-altering decisions of your life.

Abortion offers a “quick fix” to a crisis pregnancy, but abortion is only a symptom of what is really going on in your life; it is the root of your problem. Before you decide to do anything–STOP. The sky isn’t falling. The sun is still shining. The moon is still glowing. Rushing into this decision is unwise because it will effect you for the rest of your life.

There is another option...


Think about it. There are so many people who can’t conceive, and who would LOVE the opportunity to hold a precious baby in their arms, and to love that child, and to give a good life to a child if only they had that chance.

One place that you can go for help in deciding what is best for you is  Bethany . Bethany has clinics throughout the US.

Consider another place: Care-Net. Care-Net, who has helped so many mothers and fathers.

Another place to consider is Texas Christian Adoptions who have helped place many babies into good homes. They offer help for mothers and fathers who feel that there is no where else to turn. Please know that being pregnant is not the end of the world. There are places you can go to receive help. Places who have the resources to help you work through your situation. People who truly do care about you. If you find yourself in this situation, please feel free to contact them Texas Christian Adoptions

Also, if you live in northern Indiana or southern Michigan, you can contact LifePlan who can also offer help for you and your baby should you decide to keep your baby. They give free ultra sounds, I believe.

Below is a list from the Heidi Group with clinics across the country who also offer help in the adoption process.

And finally, please allow me to leave you with an important final thought. There is another grave concern when it comes to aborting your baby and too little said about it.

I pray  that you can understand that one of the most important reasons that I want those who are facing a crisis pregnancy to understand and consider is that you understand the strong bond between a mother and her child–a bond so strong that nothing or no one can penetrate it, break it, or kill it. The memory of your child will never go away. You will always remember your baby’s anniversary date each time it comes around every year. The memory of your child will live forever in your memory. Why? Because it is the way God planned it:

“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. ” Psalm 139:13-14

If others have told you that abortion is “no big deal”, “a piece of cake”, “it will solve your problems”, or, even if you’ve been told that “there will be no lasting consequences,” then you have not been told the truth.

Abortion is not the answer to your problems. It won’t wipe away the memory of your child. In fact, the opposite occurs. If you abort your child, you will carry an even greater burden that cannot be undone.

Are you pregnant? Are you hurting? Don’t know what to do? If you believe that you will be unable to care for your baby, there is still hope. LifePlan can help you through the process if you wish to keep the love of your life. If not, then please consider adoption and give your baby a chance at life. You decide to give your baby to a loving couple, then it will be the greatest gift you will ever give to someone who wants nothing else than to love a child.

President Trump has encouraged adoption over abortion because he believes in life. This is a wonderful start to stop abortion. If we join others and encourage adoption, then we can save one life at a time. We may be the only voice in the world who can help change a mind; who can help someone choose life for their child.

If you know someone who may be helped by this series, please share the link. We can reach one heart at a time.

*Note: I’ve written these series to offer help and hope to those who find themselves in a crisis pregnancy. This is not a site for pro-abortion activists who want to vent, argue, or show disrespect to those who believe that every life is worth saving. I will not publish pro abortion remarks.

The Heidi Group offers a list of states in alphabetical order where agencies across the country to help you locate an agency near you.

My thoughts and prayers are with anyone who is facing a crisis pregnancy, including fathers.

Next, in Part IV,  I will address fathers who wish that they had a voice in saving the life of their child, and who feel helpless in saving their child from abortion. As long as a woman can only conceive a baby by a man’s sperm, then a father has the right to speak his voice.

These posts are about offering help to abortion-minded women and connecting them to the right people, but they are also for those who have lost hope, trying to make sense of their life, and for those who can’t see a light at the end of their tunnel.

If you’d like to discover God’s purpose for your life, and to find the hope to carry you through, then consider my latest book, “Hurting Hearts Need a Light.”

I will be offering my book for free during the first week of December for one day. I will post the date on this site and give you a heads up on the day it will be available. If you wish to get my ebook free, you can sign up and follow this blog site.

May your days become brighter as you walk toward a better future knowing you made the right choice for you and your baby. You can do this. You just need a light to follow.

You’ve been hurting long enough. It’s time to change course and see what God has in store for your life. He loves you. He offers forgiveness and grace.


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Part II With Truth There Must Be Love

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Never fear the truth because truth sets us free. But truth must be told in love.

Being truthful is one of the main priorities when counseling abortion-minded women but truth without love usually never produces good fruit. Proverbs 3:3 says, “Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the tablet of thine heart.”

For those seeking an abortion, it is important to be aware of its risks in order to make an informed decision.

It is hard to obtain precise information regarding abortions because in most states the  reporting is voluntary, and therefore, unreliable but there are still facts surrounding abortions by those who have had an abortion.

All of us have had to deal with difficult situations and uphill battles. It is part of life. We’ve all found ourselves in circumstances where we didn’t know which way to turn. It is during these times when our emotions run high, which can cause us to make wrong choices. It is during these times when we need to step back and take a deep breath until we are better able to think more clearly.

There is no better way to think clearly than to be well-informed of your options. How can you choose the best option without knowing the facts? Choosing abortion as your only answer to an unwanted pregnancy can be detrimental to your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. And the effects of such a rash decision may not become evident until long after the abortion.

For your own well-being, it is important that you are aware of the following information.

Know The Immediate Physical Risks

Your immediate health is important to me and should be important to you. Your number one priority when making such a life-changing decision like abortion is your physical well-being. Some of the physical side effects from an abortion include:

  • Abdominal pain & cramping
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Diarrhea
  • Bleeding

However, sometimes more serious complications can occur:

  • Hemorrhaging from a torn uterine artery.
  • Infection from an incomplete abortion that can lead to a more serious infection.
  • Bleeding, infection and high fever that can result from an incomplete abortion procedure.
  • An allergic reaction to drugs or anesthesia, which could result in convulsions, heart attack, and sometimes death.
  • Uterine atony, which is a condition where an enlarged/tender uterus can retain blood clots, which can lead to sepsis, excessive blood loss, and possibly the need for a hysterectomy.
  • Tearing of the cervix caused by instruments.
  • Scarring of the uterine lining caused by instruments.
  • Punctured uterus.
  • Internal organ damage
  • Shock
  • Death

Long Term Physical Risks:

Abortion may effect the possibility of a woman being unable to bear future children in some cases. There is also the risk of an ectopic pregnancy (a displaced pregnancy in an abnormal place).

As the rise in abortions have increased dramatically over the years, so has breast cancer. Researchers have been debating whether there is a link between abortions and breast cancer. (1)

Truth, if not told in love, is not the same without the love factor because too many times people accept this kind of advice as condemnation, and condemnation is a heavy burden to carry on our shoulders, especially when we’re facing a crisis.

Emotional & Psychological Aspects of Abortion

In many cases, the aftermath of an abortion is often ignored or refuted. The emotional and psychological effects of abortion vary from woman to woman. Just because one woman  may have suffered no ill effects doesn’t mean that another won’t. It could also mean that many women aren’t being honest about the effects of their abortion.

Additional effects of post-abortion women:

  • Guilt that will effect many for the rest of their lives
  • Anger after maybe coming to the realization of what they did
  • Depression
  • Anniversary grief
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Flashbacks of the abortion
  • Relationship problems
  • Psychological “numbing”
  • Alcohol & drug abuse
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Difficulty in bonding with children
  • Preoccupation with becoming pregnant again
  • Eating disorders
  • Self-punishing or self-degrading behaviors

Most women who walk into a pregnancy center most likely have already had an abortion, or they are first-timers in desperate need of help. And these women need unconditional love, mercy, grace, and healing at the very least. But even more so, they need to know that there is always hope for the future.

Everyone should be able to believe whatever they want and still be all right, right? The truth? No. Too many instances have proven this line of thinking wrong.

“For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect [unformed]; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.” ~ Psalm 139:13-16

*A special question to those seeking abortion: What do you believe God’s desire may be for you in this situation?

God loves you, and He loves your baby. He has a special plan for you both if you choose life. He can bless you through this special child.

Please feel free to join the discussion here. It is a safe place. There will be no condemnation. Only love and encouragement. If you have any questions, please ask. (The previous information in this paragraph has been deleted because of the wrong link. This was not the intended link)

Join me next time for Part III and final segment  and discover that there is always hope and a light that shines at the end of your tunnel even when you can’t see it. You’ll also discover my reasons why I don’t believe remarks made by post-abortive women who claim to have had no physical, emotional, psychological, or spiritual effects from their abortion.

Do you feel as though there is no light at the end of your tunnel? Have you lost joy? Purpose? Hope? If you want to discover your God-given purpose–something that will give your life meaning–then check out my latest book “Hurting Hearts Need a Light”

**(1) Interview of C. Everett Koop with John Whitehead and Michael Patrick of the Rutherford Institute, Spring 1989





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