Part III What If You Don’t Really Want an Abortion? What Are Your Options?

In Part I, I discussed some of the reasons that women choose abortion and why many believe that abortion is an only option when they find themselves in a crisis pregnancy.

In Part II, I discussed the short and long-term effects of abortion including physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological aspects.

Are you facing a crisis pregnancy?

Are you torn with making a life altering decision with the life you are carrying inside you?

Are you being pressured to have an abortion by someone?

If you answer yes to even one of these questions, then you are facing one of the most important and life-altering decisions of your life.

Abortion offers a “quick fix” to a crisis pregnancy, but abortion is only a symptom of what is really going on in your life; it is the root of your problem. Before you decide to do anything–STOP. The sky isn’t falling. The sun is still shining. The moon is still glowing. Rushing into this decision is unwise because it will effect you for the rest of your life.

There is another option...


Think about it. There are so many people who can’t conceive, and who would LOVE the opportunity to hold a precious baby in their arms, and to love that child, and to give a good life to a child if only they had that chance.

One place that you can go for help in deciding what is best for you is  Bethany . Bethany has clinics throughout the US.

Consider another place: Care-Net. Care-Net, who has helped so many mothers and fathers.

Another place to consider is Texas Christian Adoptions who have helped place many babies into good homes. They offer help for mothers and fathers who feel that there is no where else to turn. Please know that being pregnant is not the end of the world. There are places you can go to receive help. Places who have the resources to help you work through your situation. People who truly do care about you. If you find yourself in this situation, please feel free to contact them Texas Christian Adoptions

Also, if you live in northern Indiana or southern Michigan, you can contact LifePlan who can also offer help for you and your baby should you decide to keep your baby. They give free ultra sounds, I believe.

Below is a list from the Heidi Group with clinics across the country who also offer help in the adoption process.

And finally, please allow me to leave you with an important final thought. There is another grave concern when it comes to aborting your baby and too little said about it.

I pray  that you can understand that one of the most important reasons that I want those who are facing a crisis pregnancy to understand and consider is that you understand the strong bond between a mother and her child–a bond so strong that nothing or no one can penetrate it, break it, or kill it. The memory of your child will never go away. You will always remember your baby’s anniversary date each time it comes around every year. The memory of your child will live forever in your memory. Why? Because it is the way God planned it:

“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. ” Psalm 139:13-14

If others have told you that abortion is “no big deal”, “a piece of cake”, “it will solve your problems”, or, even if you’ve been told that “there will be no lasting consequences,” then you have not been told the truth.

Abortion is not the answer to your problems. It won’t wipe away the memory of your child. In fact, the opposite occurs. If you abort your child, you will carry an even greater burden that cannot be undone.

Are you pregnant? Are you hurting? Don’t know what to do? If you believe that you will be unable to care for your baby, there is still hope. LifePlan can help you through the process if you wish to keep the love of your life. If not, then please consider adoption and give your baby a chance at life. You decide to give your baby to a loving couple, then it will be the greatest gift you will ever give to someone who wants nothing else than to love a child.

President Trump has encouraged adoption over abortion because he believes in life. This is a wonderful start to stop abortion. If we join others and encourage adoption, then we can save one life at a time. We may be the only voice in the world who can help change a mind; who can help someone choose life for their child.

If you know someone who may be helped by this series, please share the link. We can reach one heart at a time.

*Note: I’ve written these series to offer help and hope to those who find themselves in a crisis pregnancy. This is not a site for pro-abortion activists who want to vent, argue, or show disrespect to those who believe that every life is worth saving. I will not publish pro abortion remarks.

The Heidi Group offers a list of states in alphabetical order where agencies across the country to help you locate an agency near you.

My thoughts and prayers are with anyone who is facing a crisis pregnancy, including fathers.

Next, in Part IV,  I will address fathers who wish that they had a voice in saving the life of their child, and who feel helpless in saving their child from abortion. As long as a woman can only conceive a baby by a man’s sperm, then a father has the right to speak his voice.

These posts are about offering help to abortion-minded women and connecting them to the right people, but they are also for those who have lost hope, trying to make sense of their life, and for those who can’t see a light at the end of their tunnel.

If you’d like to discover God’s purpose for your life, and to find the hope to carry you through, then consider my latest book, “Hurting Hearts Need a Light.”

I will be offering my book for free during the first week of December for one day. I will post the date on this site and give you a heads up on the day it will be available. If you wish to get my ebook free, you can sign up and follow this blog site.

May your days become brighter as you walk toward a better future knowing you made the right choice for you and your baby. You can do this. You just need a light to follow.

You’ve been hurting long enough. It’s time to change course and see what God has in store for your life. He loves you. He offers forgiveness and grace.


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Part II With Truth There Must Be Love

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Never fear the truth because truth sets us free. But truth must be told in love.

Being truthful is one of the main priorities when counseling abortion-minded women but truth without love usually never produces good fruit. Proverbs 3:3 says, “Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the tablet of thine heart.”

For those seeking an abortion, it is important to be aware of its risks in order to make an informed decision.

It is hard to obtain precise information regarding abortions because in most states the  reporting is voluntary, and therefore, unreliable but there are still facts surrounding abortions by those who have had an abortion.

All of us have had to deal with difficult situations and uphill battles. It is part of life. We’ve all found ourselves in circumstances where we didn’t know which way to turn. It is during these times when our emotions run high, which can cause us to make wrong choices. It is during these times when we need to step back and take a deep breath until we are better able to think more clearly.

There is no better way to think clearly than to be well-informed of your options. How can you choose the best option without knowing the facts? Choosing abortion as your only answer to an unwanted pregnancy can be detrimental to your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. And the effects of such a rash decision may not become evident until long after the abortion.

For your own well-being, it is important that you are aware of the following information.

Know The Immediate Physical Risks

Your immediate health is important to me and should be important to you. Your number one priority when making such a life-changing decision like abortion is your physical well-being. Some of the physical side effects from an abortion include:

  • Abdominal pain & cramping
  • Nausea
  • Vomiting
  • Diarrhea
  • Bleeding

However, sometimes more serious complications can occur:

  • Hemorrhaging from a torn uterine artery.
  • Infection from an incomplete abortion that can lead to a more serious infection.
  • Bleeding, infection and high fever that can result from an incomplete abortion procedure.
  • An allergic reaction to drugs or anesthesia, which could result in convulsions, heart attack, and sometimes death.
  • Uterine atony, which is a condition where an enlarged/tender uterus can retain blood clots, which can lead to sepsis, excessive blood loss, and possibly the need for a hysterectomy.
  • Tearing of the cervix caused by instruments.
  • Scarring of the uterine lining caused by instruments.
  • Punctured uterus.
  • Internal organ damage
  • Shock
  • Death

Long Term Physical Risks:

Abortion may effect the possibility of a woman being unable to bear future children in some cases. There is also the risk of an ectopic pregnancy (a displaced pregnancy in an abnormal place).

As the rise in abortions have increased dramatically over the years, so has breast cancer. Researchers have been debating whether there is a link between abortions and breast cancer. (1)

Truth, if not told in love, is not the same without the love factor because too many times people accept this kind of advice as condemnation, and condemnation is a heavy burden to carry on our shoulders, especially when we’re facing a crisis.

Emotional & Psychological Aspects of Abortion

In many cases, the aftermath of an abortion is often ignored or refuted. The emotional and psychological effects of abortion vary from woman to woman. Just because one woman  may have suffered no ill effects doesn’t mean that another won’t. It could also mean that many women aren’t being honest about the effects of their abortion.

Additional effects of post-abortion women:

  • Guilt that will effect many for the rest of their lives
  • Anger after maybe coming to the realization of what they did
  • Depression
  • Anniversary grief
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Flashbacks of the abortion
  • Relationship problems
  • Psychological “numbing”
  • Alcohol & drug abuse
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Difficulty in bonding with children
  • Preoccupation with becoming pregnant again
  • Eating disorders
  • Self-punishing or self-degrading behaviors

Most women who walk into a pregnancy center most likely have already had an abortion, or they are first-timers in desperate need of help. And these women need unconditional love, mercy, grace, and healing at the very least. But even more so, they need to know that there is always hope for the future.

Everyone should be able to believe whatever they want and still be all right, right? The truth? No. Too many instances have proven this line of thinking wrong.

“For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect [unformed]; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.” ~ Psalm 139:13-16

*A special question to those seeking abortion: What do you believe God’s desire may be for you in this situation?

God loves you, and He loves your baby. He has a special plan for you both if you choose life. He can bless you through this special child.

Please feel free to join the discussion here. It is a safe place. There will be no condemnation. Only love and encouragement. If you have any questions, please ask. (The previous information in this paragraph has been deleted because of the wrong link. This was not the intended link)

Join me next time for Part III and final segment  and discover that there is always hope and a light that shines at the end of your tunnel even when you can’t see it. You’ll also discover my reasons why I don’t believe remarks made by post-abortive women who claim to have had no physical, emotional, psychological, or spiritual effects from their abortion.

Do you feel as though there is no light at the end of your tunnel? Have you lost joy? Purpose? Hope? If you want to discover your God-given purpose–something that will give your life meaning–then check out my latest book “Hurting Hearts Need a Light”

**(1) Interview of C. Everett Koop with John Whitehead and Michael Patrick of the Rutherford Institute, Spring 1989




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Babies Give Love Immediately After Birth – Part I

“Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the tablet of thine heart.”  ~  Proverbs 3:3

Those who know me know that I oppose abortion, but my greatest opposition is toward abortionists and not the women who have had an abortion, or who find themselves in a crisis pregnancy.

If you are someone trying to choose whether to keep your baby or get an abortion, please STOP and read this.

As a volunteer peer counselor at a Woman’s Pregnancy Care Center, I learned that the last thing a woman in a crisis pregnancy needs is condemnation. Instead, they need compassion, hope, encouragement, empathy, love, and a listening friend.

Regarding the statistics of abortions, the statistics change so fast that the accuracy is seldom up-to-date. However, it has been reported that every thirty seconds a baby’s life is taken by abortion according to  As of this writing, 10, 172 babies have been saved through this caring organization.

Some reasons women choose abortion are:

  • 1%       Victims are raped or have conceived due to incest
  • 1%        From fetal abnormalities
  • 4%       Doctor advised against carrying to term due to health
  • 50%     Didn’t want to be a single parent, or problems in a current relationship
  • 66%     Can’t afford to raise a child
  • 70%     A child would interfere with their lives

Again, these percentages change over time.

Women who may be facing a crisis pregnancy may many times feel pressured from society to have an abortion,which can contribute to their decision. They may also feel pressure from a boyfriend, husband, or family member.

Some reasons that woman or men seek abortion as the only alternative to their dilemma could be finances, illness, their living situation, and, work or school situations.

Emotions run so high during a crisis: *Fear   *Confusion  *Anger  *Guilt   *Depression  *Feelings of worthlessness. Therefore, it is best to wait until you are able to think clearly.

So many woman lose hope in their situation and see abortion as their only solution to their crisis. When a woman is facing a crisis situation they are more likely to see abortion as a quick fix, and their only hope out of the situation. A crisis causes us to become vulnerable to making rash decisions, which lead us to a “quick fix” solution–abortion: putting a Bandaid on the wound hope it goes away. While this make work for wounds, it doesn’t work for abortion. Losing a baby to abortion is something you can’t “redo.” Sometimes it takes months, even years to realize the devastating effects of abortion.

Abortion is not the answer to your problem, but rather, it is the “root cause” to a deeper problem. Abortion is only a symptom.

“Jesus came to earth to seek and save the lost.” ~ Luke 19:10

What are the effects that a mother or father may experience after the loss of a baby through abortion?

Please join us next week for Part II.






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The Hope of Heaven

We have so much to look forward to when we follow Jesus and put our trust in Him by accepting Him as our personal Savior.

We all need hope, unconditional love, and sometimes we need a helping hand.

Let’s run the race in such a way as to receive the prize that awaits at the end of our journey for those who have faith and who trust God. What waits is HEAVEN. I don’t think people talk enough about heaven. Some may not believe in it. Some may doubt there is one.

The universe is so spectacular. It causes many to wonder about all the *what ifs* and the *how dids* pertaining to the things that are out of our sight and our reach.

Have you ever wondered what heaven will be like? All the things that God has planned for those who love Him?

He’s given us a glimpse of what to expect in the book of Revelation. Here are only a few things that waits for us:


“There is a river of the water of life…” (Revelation 22:1 NAS)



And, “The foundation stones of the city wall were adorned with every kind of precious stone” ~ Revelation 21:19 (NASB).

“The foundation stones of the city wall were adorned with every kind of precious stone” (Rev. 21:19 NAS).

The wall has twelve foundations: jasper, sapphire, chalcedony, emerald, sardonyx, sardius, chrysolite, beryl, topaz, chrysoprase, jacinth, amethyst. (Rev. 21:19 NAS).

Revelation 21:21 says, “And the twelve gates were twelve pearls; each one of the gates was a single pearl. And the street of the city was pure gold, like transparent glass.”

Can you imagine? Wouldn’t it be neat to see a street of gold?


I Corinthians 2:9, “Things which eye has not seen and ear has not heard, And which have not the heart of man, All that God has prepared for those who love Him”

Hope in Jesus. Hope in God. You can check out my entire post on Candidly Christian.


Going through some troubling times? Take heart and turn toward the the Light of Jesus; the only cure.


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The Light of Jesus Can Never Go Out

There seems to be a darkness covering America, and it is trying to swallow the Light of Jesus.

The darkness appears through negative voices who only want to harm others. These voices speak loud and boldly as it tries to silence the voices of those who don’t agree with their voices, therefore, silencing our freedoms of speech and religious freedoms.

Am I wrong?

It seems that this darkness disguises itself as our friends but they oppose what we believe in. And they are relentless, trying to steal the very hearts of America. But we are the very hearts of America. We are in this life together, trying to make our way in the world, and I realize that we are not all going to believe the same. I would not be completely honest if I didn’t say that I used to get so upset with those who didn’t agree with me, and I’m sure I turned some people off. But I realized that we’re not always going to agree, but this is no cause to be angry with others who don’t see things our way.

Our enemies lurk about, waiting for those whom they can devour,  those who distort the truth and try to deceive others through propaganda. They are wolves in sheep’s clothing, pretending to care about us, but in fact, they don’t care about any thing but power and control.

Social media and various news outlets try desperately to hijack our thoughts, emotions, and now even our actions by trying to silence and stop us for standing up for what we believe is right. They have been working overtime to obscure the light of Jesus.

I would like to begin stepping out and begin shining a light on the darkness wherever that may lead. I appreciate all who have taken an interest in my blog site. So, I’m wanting to know how you might feel about me taking this blog site in a direction that may open the world’s sleepy eyes and hopefully bring those who don’t know Jesus, to come to know Him.

What do you think? Are you ready to hop on board and make a difference in the world?



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Hurting Hearts Need a Light

I’m happy to announce that my latest book, Hurting Hearts Need a Light, is now available in paperback on Amazon. God has a purpose for each of us; something we can do better than anything else, but when we go through trials our vision can become blurred, and our hearts could use a bit of encouragement and hope.

Take heart and pick up your copy of Hurting Hearts Need a Light


Thanks to all of you who have encouraged me along my journey. God is truly great, and to Him I give the glory.

I would appreciate if you would consider adding our name to my mailing list should a day ever come when social media shuts down. I can keep you updated on my Works-in-Progress. I will not inundate your mail boxes.

The verse that inspired me to write Hurting Hearts Need a Light was Nehemiah 4:11, “Our enemies said, they will not know or see until we come among them, kill them, and put a stop to their work” (NASB). Well, this ruffled my feathers. Nehemiah’s enemies tried to prevent them from rebuilding a wall around Jerusalem. This passage, written long ago, demonstrates how our enemies work even today. They are relentless in trying to stop the work of God.

I’m blessed to do what I love while spreading God’s love and grace.

Special blessings for special friends and acquaintances.

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Happy Spring and Thank You

Feeling blessed…Happy spring everybody

I know that with all the social media outlets, it’s difficult to keep up with all of those that we are subscribed to. I’m subscribed to ones that I find interesting and where I can benefit from the information and be encouraged along my journey.

I set aside my WIP (work in progress) because I felt led to write something that offers hope and encouragement to those who might need it.

I’ve published a short read that offers encouragement to those who may be struggling in their lives, or those who don’t believe that they were born with a purpose. We are all born with a purpose, and when we discover our unique purpose it gives us a renewed hope because we have something to look forward to. The print version of my eBook will be available soon.

I’d like to take this time to thank you–my subscribers/followers–who take the time to read, or at least scan, my blog posts. I really try not to inundate people’s mail boxes because I know that our mailboxes fill up quickly and it’s hard to keep up with all of the information that passes through our lives each day.

So, thank you. I hope you have an amazing day and an awesome summer!




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New Book Now Available

I am happy to announce that my new book is now available as an eBook on Amazon and other outlets. The print version is coming soon. You can watch my book trailer here, and while you’re there you can check out my new changes on my website and let me know what you think.

You can also find the book on Amazon.

I would also love for you to join my mailing list. If a day would ever come when social media shuts down and we can no longer connect through social media, it would be nice to still have the opportunity to be connected. Please consider joining my email list. I’ll also be able to keep you updated on my WIP in the coming months. I will not send out emails often.

I put my work-in-progress (WIP) on hold after I felt led to publish this inspirational book, Hurting Hearts Need a Light to offer hope and encouragement to those who feel there’s no light at the end of their tunnel, or they don’t know what their purpose is in life. It was such a delight to write.

The verse that inspired me was Nehemiah 4:11, “Our enemies said, they will not know or see until we come among them, kill them, and put a stop to their work” (NASB). Well, this ruffled my feathers. Nehemiah’s enemies tried to prevent them from rebuilding a wall around Jerusalem. This passage, written long ago, demonstrates how our enemies work even today. They are relentless in trying to stop the work of God.

I am so blessed to be able to be doing what I love, and by spreading the Word of God through my writing. For those who read this book, I pray that it will bring you a special blessing.

Thanks to all of you who have join my community of friends.




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Hurting Hearts Need a Light

Digital version to be released soon on Amazon and other outlets. Print version coming soon after. Book trailer here

I put my previous work-in-progress on hold for a few months after I felt led to write this inspirational booklet, Hurting Hearts Need a Light. It’s to offer hope and encouragement to those who might feel as though the light went out at the end of their tunnel, and they don’t know what their purpose is in life.

The verse that inspired me to write Hurting Hearts Need a Light was Nehemiah 4:11, “Our enemies said, they will not know or see until we come among them, kill them, and put a stop to their work” (NASB). Well, you can imagine that this ruffled my feathers a bit. Nehemiah’s enemies tried to prevent them from rebuilding a wall around Jerusalem. This passage, written long ago, demonstrates how our enemies work even today. They are relentless in trying to stop God’s work from being done.

Society strives to erase Jesus from the public domain. They are in our schools, colleges, in some of our religious congregations, and our political arena. Evidently, society hasn’t read how the story ends because if they had they would know that they will never be able to erase Jesus from the heart’s of His children because Jesus lives!

We are all born for a purpose. What is your purpose? May you discover it in Hurting Hearts Need a Light.




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A Married Guy’s Encouragement to Single Parents

I’d like to thank Brad Klassen who is here today with his latest post on single parenting. Brad is a writer, a story-teller, and public speaker, and he’s sharing his experience he had one night when he took his daughter to ER. While waiting for the doctor, he thought about how single parents cope with incidents without a life partner to share them with. I believe every single person can relate to this experience.

My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We have 4 healthy, awesome children.

Recently our second oldest came to us saying she had been having some pains in her cheek. As experienced parents, we decided to ride it out for a while to see if this would be a passing pain, or if it would end up being something more serious. She kept having pain.

Then one night, after she came to our room in pain three times, I took her to the emergency room. Continue reading

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