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Never fear the truth because truth sets us free. But truth must be told in love.
Being truthful is one of the main priorities when counseling abortion-minded women but truth without love usually never produces good fruit. Proverbs 3:3 says, “Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the tablet of thine heart.”
For those seeking an abortion, it is important to be aware of its risks in order to make an informed decision.
It is hard to obtain precise information regarding abortions because in most states the reporting is voluntary, and therefore, unreliable but there are still facts surrounding abortions by those who have had an abortion.
All of us have had to deal with difficult situations and uphill battles. It is part of life. We’ve all found ourselves in circumstances where we didn’t know which way to turn. It is during these times when our emotions run high, which can cause us to make wrong choices. It is during these times when we need to step back and take a deep breath until we are better able to think more clearly.
There is no better way to think clearly than to be well-informed of your options. How can you choose the best option without knowing the facts? Choosing abortion as your only answer to an unwanted pregnancy can be detrimental to your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. And the effects of such a rash decision may not become evident until long after the abortion.
For your own well-being, it is important that you are aware of the following information.
Know The Immediate Physical Risks
Your immediate health is important to me and should be important to you. Your number one priority when making such a life-changing decision like abortion is your physical well-being. Some of the physical side effects from an abortion include:
- Abdominal pain & cramping
However, sometimes more serious complications can occur:
- Hemorrhaging from a torn uterine artery.
- Infection from an incomplete abortion that can lead to a more serious infection.
- Bleeding, infection and high fever that can result from an incomplete abortion procedure.
- An allergic reaction to drugs or anesthesia, which could result in convulsions, heart attack, and sometimes death.
- Uterine atony, which is a condition where an enlarged/tender uterus can retain blood clots, which can lead to sepsis, excessive blood loss, and possibly the need for a hysterectomy.
- Tearing of the cervix caused by instruments.
- Scarring of the uterine lining caused by instruments.
- Punctured uterus.
- Internal organ damage
Long Term Physical Risks:
Abortion may effect the possibility of a woman being unable to bear future children in some cases. There is also the risk of an ectopic pregnancy (a displaced pregnancy in an abnormal place).
As the rise in abortions have increased dramatically over the years, so has breast cancer. Researchers have been debating whether there is a link between abortions and breast cancer. (1)
Truth, if not told in love, is not the same without the love factor because too many times people accept this kind of advice as condemnation, and condemnation is a heavy burden to carry on our shoulders, especially when we’re facing a crisis.
Emotional & Psychological Aspects of Abortion
In many cases, the aftermath of an abortion is often ignored or refuted. The emotional and psychological effects of abortion vary from woman to woman. Just because one woman may have suffered no ill effects doesn’t mean that another won’t. It could also mean that many women aren’t being honest about the effects of their abortion.
Additional effects of post-abortion women:
- Guilt that will effect many for the rest of their lives
- Anger after maybe coming to the realization of what they did
- Anniversary grief
- Suicidal thoughts
- Flashbacks of the abortion
- Relationship problems
- Psychological “numbing”
- Alcohol & drug abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Difficulty in bonding with children
- Preoccupation with becoming pregnant again
- Eating disorders
- Self-punishing or self-degrading behaviors
Most women who walk into a pregnancy center most likely have already had an abortion, or they are first-timers in desperate need of help. And these women need unconditional love, mercy, grace, and healing at the very least. But even more so, they need to know that there is always hope for the future.
Everyone should be able to believe whatever they want and still be all right, right? The truth? No. Too many instances have proven this line of thinking wrong.
“For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect [unformed]; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.” ~ Psalm 139:13-16
*A special question to those seeking abortion: What do you believe God’s desire may be for you in this situation?
God loves you, and He loves your baby. He has a special plan for you both if you choose life. He can bless you through this special child.
Please feel free to join the discussion here. It is a safe place. There will be no condemnation. Only love and encouragement. If you have any questions, please ask. (The previous information in this paragraph has been deleted because of the wrong link. This was not the intended link)
Join me next time for Part III and final segment and discover that there is always hope and a light that shines at the end of your tunnel even when you can’t see it. You’ll also discover my reasons why I don’t believe remarks made by post-abortive women who claim to have had no physical, emotional, psychological, or spiritual effects from their abortion.
Do you feel as though there is no light at the end of your tunnel? Have you lost joy? Purpose? Hope? If you want to discover your God-given purpose–something that will give your life meaning–then check out my latest book “Hurting Hearts Need a Light”
**(1) Interview of C. Everett Koop with John Whitehead and Michael Patrick of the Rutherford Institute, Spring 1989